One of the things that I have learned to do in my relationships is that I recognize “specialness” in people and I tell them when it happens. Many of us see things in people that we admire, but we rarely tell them, let alone tell them in a way that they really know how we feel. This type of positive affirmation can create an opportunity to deeply touch people and as the book Fish! calls it, “Make their day.”

To be more specific, when something strikes you about someone, tell him or her. Look people in the eye and tell them why you admire their quality and how it makes them stand out. I’m giving you this advice as a gift, and I caution you not to try to use it as a tool to manipulate people or to use it in a self serving way. You will be sniffed out in a second. I’m just saying that when you are struck by people, tell them and they will greatly appreciate it.

As I have matured in life and have been better able to do this, it has allowed me to create closeness faster and to lay a foundation for deeper relationships more quickly. In business this can lead to deep and mutually beneficial relationships which create wealth in many different ways. Again, as I speak about in my book, what is right to do is also what’s smart to do.