I find it interesting that in both relationships and business the power to walk away allows us to have true clarity.  When we are overly invested, we increase the possibility of making bad decisions.

The answer is loving separation. Simply said, you can still love someone or something with all your heart, but you need to separate yourself from that sometimes-blinding love in order to make sure you’re taking care of yourself with good decisions.

In business it is easier and clearer.  An example of this might be that “perfect” house.  It’s too much money, but, “Honey, it’s perfect.”  Before you lay down the money, you have to separate yourself from the emotional investment to ensure you make a good choice.  It’s when “walking” becomes acceptable that the fog of “perfect” clears.

Another example might be one that involves a long time employee who has become a dear friend, but just isn’t getting the job done anymore.  You know what you have to do, but your heart is getting in the way. You have to be able to separate yourself from the situation and make a wise choice on behalf of your business because, among other things, that business supports your family.

In relationships it gets a little muddier, but the same rule applies.   An example of this might be a spouse who is being abused but is still in love.  Separation in order to see the relationship for what it is might save a life.

Another tough example of this for me is choosing what I know is best for my son and knowing that he will struggle or be disappointed.  It gets me every time.  The only way I can do it is to step away and tune into that part of my brain that does the math: Jaken + “X” = learning and growth.  Go team!  I know he’s not going to like it, but I have a duty to him as his father to make good choices on his behalf.

Loving separation may seem callous to some, but I assure you that it is a healthy life skill.  You must posses this skill.  It will serve you, your business, and your family.  Good luck and wish me some as well. This can be tough stuff.